How to complain about Medical Practices.

[Linda]

Well after this past week with what is happening with my Mom, I wonder how does one make a compaliant about Medical Practice.

I am so frustrated that when we took my mom to emergency at 10 pm on Thursday night, the doctor did not do any tests at all to see what the problem was. He felt her stomach and said go home, drink plenty of fluids and you will be fine in a couple days, you just have a tomach virus.

Now 2 days later we have to rush her back to the same hospital and a different doctor within no time. said this is too serious for us to handle here, and had to send her to another hospital. But before he did this he had x-rays, blood work and all medical records ready by the time she was sent on.

Now tell me how can a doctor on Thursday night make a decision without any of these tests, not even look up medical records, just feel stomach and say you have a virius.

This to me is very poor medical procdures. My question I guess is how does one go about filing a complaint in a situation like this.

Maybe some one here has gone through something like this and may have some suggestions.

Just something I thought would make for a discussion, I am sure this sort of thing happens to others.

PS. As to an update to my mom she still in very much pain and no word yet as to when they may be able to operate. God Bless you all and thank you for your prayers.

[NoLimit24_FJ aka Jim]

Hi Linda,
The first thing I would suggest is to contact an attorney. Here in the United States, and depending on the particular state one lives in, there is a statue of limitations on medical malpractice suits. I went through this myself with some of the "junkola" that went on prior to my coma. I found the statue of limitations had indeed expired. In researching, I did not know if I truly wanted to pursue litigation against the Doctor, but I did feel better when speaking with an attorney.

I would suggest looking for a malpractice attorney, and contacting them. Along with that, remember to pray concerning the situation you currently catch yourself in. Please remember, God is with you and your Mom. I know it is tough. I had to face this with not only my own health, but watching what happened to my Mother. You know I came out of that wheelchair for the first time when my Mom had her seizure. If I had not, she would have collapsed to the floor.

God is listening and works in ways none of us understands at times. You, and your mom will be in my prayers.

Keep us posted.
Love ya,
Jim

[Linda]

Well Jim you are right about one thing and I have often believed this myself/ God does work in ways we may not understand. God is working now with my Mom and my family. Today my sister went to visit my Mom and when we got there wer were told she was in intensive care. I said the name again and they said yes and you need to talk to the nurse before you can see her. Well that was a shock to know she was in intensive care and we were not notified. When we got there we were informed that my mom had a mild heart attack. I said that can't bee she never had a heart problem in her life. Oh well it can happen very quickly especially with her age and her problem. We are informed that her surgery will be delayed due to this factor and also that she was disorieneted. Well when we got to see her finally, she was totally confuesed and talking things that did not make sense. At one point she asked me if I had moved into my sister's apartment yet. This floored me since I had moved there over a year ago. Ijust said yes mom, I am all unpacked and everything is set up. WE finally realized that we would just go along and answer things as she was seeing things or remembering things..

I believe this is God's way of letting us knowq of his plans for my mom.. I guess this is HIS way of prpearing us for what is to come..

My sister and iI discussed that things that recently happened, like she came home for the summer and got her flower garden planted, her dog has gone to my sister where she wanted it to be if something happened to her. It is like God is fulling filling her last wishes and preparing us for what is to come..

I believe this, but Jim it is going to be such a hard thing to accept when he calls her home..

Well I must close for now I so wish I could actually talk to you on the web cam, you always had a way of making me feel better when I was going through hard times and right now this is proving to be a hard time. But I do thank you for your prayers.

love ya Jim

[NoLimit24_FJ aka Jim]

Hi Linda,

I cannot "argue" with the point that God made indeed be "preparing" you as truth is we just don't know. The Lord takes care of us. We both understand and agree with that point. He will indeed take care of your Mom as she continues her path in the hospital. Trust in Him. Pray to Him. Believe in Him, and know He is there every moment...every single moment, even when you and your sister cannot be.

Linda, when my Mom was in the coma after her seizure, as you may know, I was very ill. In fact, it was all I could do to make it to the hospital and be there with her. Yet, God provided me the strength to do so. Do you know what I did while there? I lay on the bed with my Mom, held her, and talked to her. See, Linda, I knew she could hear me. I knew what her "mind" and the physical part of her body were going through...I had been there in my coma. And, trust me...one can hear "love", "praise", and "good words" while laying there unable to do a thing. I understand more than ever that some of those "things" I was seeing during the coma were indeed God, and were indeed family members in "my ear saying good things"... So, don't hesitate to "talk" with your Mom and to hold her hand during this time period. I realize it may be tough, but stay tough...keep that smile and keep your composure. She will sense when you are "happy", "kind", "gentle", and she will sense when a "tear" streams down your cheek. The best thing I could say to you, is to be yourself while you visit her. You have a huge and I do mean HUGE kind compassionate, loving heart...Let your inner soul guide you while there, and prior to entering the room at the hospital, bow your head and ask the Lord for strength, and for the words...then, simply be yourself as God will guide you.

Linda, you mention "strength" and "how hard it will be should something happen to mom"...Yes, all of that is true. I said the same thing over and over about my Mom. Yet, oddly, when the Lord is ready to call a parent home, He not only gets us ready but He comforts us...You, my friend, will find and have that strength, endurance, and love...You will have that understanding even in the darkest days because you know the Lord, and you trust the Lord...

I will try to help you get set back up on Blogstar and maybe we can see one another and just talk on cam. If not there, then maybe here in the NoLimit Video room, as I believe it is working again....

Until then, know God loves you...I am praying with and for you...you are in my thoughts....and you will be ok, and so will Mom.

Love ya,
Jim

[Linda]

Thank you Jim for your kind words. Also for sharing with me what you did when your mom was in a coma. I know last night while sitting and talking with mom (even though most of what she said made no sense) I did talk with her as if I knew what she meant. I only hope she did not see the tears as I tried to turn my head to wipe them away.

I know we just tried to be as happy and tell her all the good news we could give, so that she knew we were all there for her and praying she would feel better soon. Just trying to be as positive as we could.

When I got home I called my minister to keep him updated and he told me he was going to see her today. He wanted to know if I thought she would know him, all I could say was at some point she might but other times she may not.

Well Jim I am so tired so will close for now and get some rest. I know God will be with my Mom through all this . Good nite Jim and God Bless you and thank you for all your support, love and prayers.